Yes, No, Now: The Three Simple Words at the Root of a Happy and Fulfilling Life.
It's up to you to use them to get the most out of them.
We all have our own goals in life. Some dream of being famous. Others dream of becoming rich. Some just want to start a family and live a peaceful life in the country. All of these goals are equally respectable.
Everyone has the right to want to do what they want with their lives.
And it is on this last point that we all meet. We all desire, whoever we are, to have the right to live our lives as we see fit. The goal behind this desire is to be able to blossom and be happy. It is not an easy task, because many people have difficulty in carrying out this essential life project.
However, it all starts with three simple words that you will have to learn to use as often as possible in your life. The sooner the better.
Say “Yes” to Yourself.
I frequently come across people who do things they don't like. Just by looking at their body language, I can tell right away. When I ask them why they do it, I am surprised to hear answers like “Because I have to do it for X”.
Here you can replace X with relatives or friends. These people will do things relentlessly because they have to do it to please others. Even if these third parties are people they love, this is something that will eventually destroy them.
You can't spend your life doing what others want you to do just to make them feel good about themselves. You will never be fulfilled if you are afraid to be yourself or you will disappoint others.
The first thing to do is to learn to say “Yes”. But be careful, not just any “Yes”. You must learn to privilege yourself, that is to say, to say "Yes" to yourself. Learn to listen to your wants and needs. Then act following what you want to do in life.
Learn to say “No”.
“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”
— Warren Buffett
Warren Buffett is one of the greatest investors in history. He knows a thing or two about taking or turning down opportunities. Warren Buffett's main advice is to say no to almost every opportunity you are presented with.
This will give you more time to focus on the opportunities that are essential to your future.
It sounds trivial, but too many people have a hard time saying no to others for fear of disappointment or subsequent rejection. You will have to learn to say no to regain control of your life and lead a more fulfilling life. This will not be easy at first, as many people who are not used to you saying no may take offense.
Over time, you will be left with only those relationships that understand that you must follow your path in life. They will be happy for you, just as you will be happy for them in the opposite direction.
Take action Now.
I always repeat the same thing: the best time to take action in life is now. You don't have to waste time. Take action, and then you'll see how to adapt along the way. Don't wait until you have all the information to take action by remembering this quote from famous adventurer and explorer Mike Horn:
“To start moving, you just need to have 5% of the answers to your questions, the other 95% come along the way. Those who want 100% of the answers to start moving remain stuck.”
Adaptability is the key to a happy life. Don't take anything for granted. Both failure and success. You will experience both, and it will be the way you react to these outcomes that will make all the difference afterward. Never give up trying to get to where you want to be.
Everyone who leads a happy and fulfilled life follows this path.
Final Thoughts
Yes, No, Now. These three simple words can change your life for the better forever if you realize the power they have over your life. Make your life a priority, learn to say no, and above all act as soon as possible to have no more regrets. You will then be free in your head and finally in agreement with yourself.
You will be on the way to a happy and fulfilled life. It is up to you to make this choice.