What Happens When You Focus Only On What You Can Change
This fundamental change in approach will allow you to succeed while leading a more fulfilling life.
Having control over our environment is something we all feel good about. Many people like to think that they can control the events that happen to them. However, this natural human approach can quickly become a heavy handicap in your life.
Indeed, as soon as things don't go as you imagined, you will find it difficult not to panic.
You will be overwhelmed by events. The upheaval that will take hold of you will prevent you from taking control of the situation. You'll be overwhelmed and won't be able to perform to your full potential.
The first thing to do is to accept that some things cannot be changed
The first initial step in breaking out of this vicious cycle is to understand that there are things in life that you cannot control. Some things cannot be changed.
There are fundamental truths that you must accept to change your life for the better. It is not pleasant to admit, but it is something that will allow you to grow.
Once you have accepted this truth, you can move on to the next step in your growth in life. You'll be able to let go of all those things you have no control over and focus on the rest.
The rest is the stuff you can control and change.
This will be like applying the 80/20 rule to your life. You will focus 80% of your efforts on the 20% of things you can change. With this new approach, your results will explode on all levels. You will maximize your chances of achieving great success.
Even more than great success, your mental health will be boosted.
This will help you to stop torturing yourself with things that do not depend on you
You will stop suffering from unnecessary things. I'll give you an obvious example. You have found a job offer for your dream job. You prepare for days and days to get ready for that potentially life-changing job interview.
You go to the interview. You give it your best shot. Finally, you don't hear from the company for several days. Those who tend to scatter all over the place will start to rack their brains.
These people will blame themselves by replaying the job interview over and over again in their minds. The thoughts will go something like this:
I wasn't good enough.
And if I had said that instead.
Maybe I should have sounded less pretentious.
I should have asked for less money.
I was too hesitant to answer that question.
I am sure that this type of inner questioning, which is pure overthinking, has already handicapped you in your life.
Rid of this weight that was slowing you down, you can attract what some call luck
By adopting the approach I detail in this article, you clearly won't do that. What you can control and change is how you prepare for that job interview. You need to give your all to the things that matter to you.
Then, the interview is when you're going to get the dividends of your investment.
Everything that happens after the interview is over is out of your hands. You may be turned down, but in the end, that doesn't mean you weren't good enough. A candidate who fits the company's profile better may have gotten the job.
However, this does not call into question your qualities and skills.
You have no reason to torture yourself. You simply have to move on because many other opportunities are waiting for you. Many times, you will realize that even more interesting opportunities will come to you if you keep moving forward.
For the world belongs to those who continue to give it their all failure after failure.
Success always comes to this type of person eventually. Some people may think it's luck, but in reality, luck only comes to those who work hard and put themselves in a position to benefit from it.
Final Thoughts
By focusing on what you can change, you will be able to seize the life-changing opportunities that some people call luck. Best of all, you'll do all this while being able to live a peaceful life.
So there are only advantages to focusing only on what you can change. For the rest, go into acceptance mode.